Author: Rajiv Jacob

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Mindfulness as a superpower

Sometimes I feel that mindfulness has taken on “fad” status, like an Atkins diet or cross fit training. It sounds like a silver bullet that will solve all of your mental health concerns, no matter what. My mum used to say “if it sounds too good to true, it probably is”. The thing is, there […]

Social Anxiety

I have a friend called Kate, who worries constantly about creating a negative impression. In fact, I think it’s a bit deeper than that; she worries about upsetting others to the point that it’s crippling. Kate called me one day for reassurance that the text that she wrote to mutual friend was not unintentionally offensive, […]

Seeing versus believing

Our perception of reality can be easily distorted. Follow the instructions in the video to see that our focus dictates our perception .

Recognising Anxiety Symptoms

Imagine you are on your way to a job interview. It’s your dream job and you have given yourself plenty of time to get there. You turn out of your street and traffic is immediately at a standstill. It takes 12 minutes to travel 3 blocks and you realise you are going to be late. […]

Does Facebook make you happy?

Does Facebook make you happy?

I wake up and the first thing I do is check Facebook. I felt a mild sense of shame doing this. Like it’s not ok for this to be the first activity of the day. Part of my shame comes from the vaguely judgmental way that social media use is reported by newspapers, media commentators […]

The Willpower Challenge: How to Succeed with your New Years Resolution

The Willpower Challenge: How to Succeed with your New Years Resolution

Its that time of year again. Fat and unfit and returning to work not quite rested. Maybe you ate a little too much or partied a little too hard over the Christmas break. You haven’t been to the gym in 3 weeks. You are highly motivated to atone for the sins of the silly season. […]

How much stress is “normal”?

Stress gets a bad rap. It seems to be linked to many major diseases as well as being a significant contributor to the onset of a mental illness. Yet stress is evitable. It is inescapable and in fact endeavours to avoid stress are likely to cause stress.   New research has found that stress in […]

The usual characters: communicating with difficult family members at Christmas

There are 9 days until Christmas. While I have 90% of the shopping done, there are aspects of Christmas day that I am not looking forward to. There is always that one family member at lunch who grinds my gears. Though it hasn’t always been the same agitator (different things bothered me at different ages) […]

5 ways to beat Yuletide stress.

Does seeing Christmas decorations in November cause a familiar pang of anxiety? Can you feel your heart race a little faster and your stomach squeeze a little tighter? Christmas cheer? Pffft! If you are like many Australians you find Christmas to be a stressful and demanding time of the year. Finding the perfect gifts, seeing […]

To blog or not to blog..?

For several years I have been told I need to write more and to start by writing a blog. It seems to drop to the bottom of my to-do list but now that I have started to acknowledge my limits and say “sorry no, I cant help with that [insert interesting and meaningful activity here]” […]